Narcissism Behind Closed Doors
A story of power, passion, control and male narcissistic personality disorder played out in the lives of many women today. The synopsis of the fairytale is based on the version printed in "Women who run with the Wolves" by the storyteller and Jungian Analyst Clarissa Pinkola Estes. Her discussion of Bluebeard is illuminating and the entire book is a must read for any woman negotiating her own path.
The Bluebeard Story
A fable of Power, passion and control
No matter what your situation is, whether you are experiencing a controlling partner, spouse, lover, a suppressive situation at home, work or simply an inner need to find your true self. The message behind this analysis of the Bluebeard Story is crystal clear.
Bluebeard is set in a once upon a time long, long ago, just the other day. It's a kind of therapy audio. At the very least it is highly enlightening and a today's story! Listen to the messages behind the story. Throughout the mp3 story is a descriptive analysis.
A story played out in the lives of many women today
Lisa a beautiful young woman finds herself falling for an illusion. She is seduced into a false sense of security by a rich manipulative, arrogant and controlling man, who in ignorance she chooses to marry.
Lisa soon discovers all that glitters is not gold! Bluebeard leaves his newly wed wife to go on a business trip, as he hands her the keys to his magnificent castle he insists that she must do and go anywhere she pleases saying, "You are the mistress of all my lands and estates" but she is not aware that she has married into having much less rather than much more!
Before he departs he warns her not to open the door at the end of the hall, in the lower part of the house. Her sister Gemma is a woman of high curiosity and her conscious awareness is more developed. Gemma persuades Lisa to open the door, unfortunately what they find there is most unexpected. Bluebeard returns home unexpectedly to discover his wife has disobeyed him, which has dire consequences.
The Bluebeard Story - Synopsis
This Bluebeard story analysis tells of a relationship between two people that is played out in the lives of many couples today, it is about the darkness which is a natural part of all human psyches'. A young woman falls for a man who hides behind a mask of deep insecurity. His unfailing false charm entices her into marriage.
Behind the mask is a man who is vain, self absorbed, egoistical, selfish and controlling, he is conceited and holds deep rooted angry and resentment. As time goes by his dysfunctional personality begins to emerge.
Is Bluebeard the Hurt Child, Angry Grown-Up?
Physical, mental, emotional or psychological mistreating of another person can originate from past emotional pain and parental conditioning experienced during childhood. Behaviours, actions, feelings, and attitudes manifest later in life as a result of this mistreating.
As a society we have labels for people who display emotionally dysfunctional behaviours. These labels have become stale and commonplace through overuse and generalization. Unfortunately anyone who displays characteristics of emotional instability leave themselves open and venerable to being labeled narcissistic. Whether this is always the case is often questionable.
This story is my personal interpretation and analysis of the Bluebeard story, which is one of the fable stories by Clarissa Pinkola Estes. I dedicate my Bluebeard to her memory. Clarissa wrote "Women Who Run With The Wolves" from which Bluebeard is one of many wonderful metaphor stories for women. Remember, the best way to make your dreams come true is to wake up!
Interested in reading more? This is a wonderful blog created by Heide kolb, a well known Jungian Analyst.
From Heidi's article Bluebeard ~ A Killer to reckon with: How to Survive the Soul's Predator
Just like a dream, a fairytale is not to be taken literally. It depicts the dance and the dynamics between the two grand archetypal forces, the masculine and the feminine, as they manifest in the collective as well as in the individual psyche. Both, dreams and fairy tales can be a kind of roadmap to discern an attitude that will allow, in fairy tale terms, for the princess to get her prince, and in Jungian language, for the union of opposites and the sacred marriage of the masculine and the feminine within ones soul.
Bluebeard is well and alive in the outer manifest world. In his densest form, a person, usually but not always, a male, becomes identified with Bluebeard's energy and is then encountered, in the serial killer (yes, they do exist), the rapist, the human trafficker. Many of his victims won't live to tell the tale.
Even more prevalent is the sadistic, wife-beating husband. But Bluebeard also manifests through the man who is emotionally abusive. There is a violence that can be inflicted on a woman's (AND the perpetrator's) soul, which draws blood not from the physical but from the subtle body. This injury can be even more devastating than its physical counterpart. Sadly, it is ignored or played down by society.
A story played out in the lives of many women today